婚恋现实主义:农村青年婚恋的表征、逻辑与实践  

Marriage and Love Realism:The Representation,Logic and Practice of Love and Marriage of Rural Youth

作　　者：王旭清 Wang Xuqing(Center for Rural China Governance,Huazhong University of Science and Technology)

机构地区：[1]华中科技大学中国乡村治理研究中心

出　　处：《当代青年研究》2021年第4期31-38,共8页Contemporary Youth Research

摘　　要：与“80后”的婚恋理想主义不同,当前农村青年出现了婚恋现实主义。他们谈情说爱却未必谈婚论嫁,注重物质条件更甚于双方感情,追求自我体验而不困于家庭生活。作为一种现代家庭组建方式,婚恋现实主义的逻辑在于将恋爱与婚姻相对分离,把物质作为婚恋的前提与保证。其中,感情是婚姻的前提,婚姻是恋爱的结果,物质条件是关联“恋”与“婚”的桥梁。这种现实主义使得农村青年的婚恋过程被分解成恋爱、婚恋和婚后三个相对独立的阶段,在情感与利益的平衡下出现了“玩”“适合”“不凑合”三种并不连续的阶段性原则,导致了爱情娱乐化、本地婚恋市场持续升温以及家庭不稳定性增强的后果。物质至上的农村青年婚恋及家庭观值得被持续和反思。Different from the idealism of marriage and love of the post-80s generation,there is a realism of marriage and love among young people in rural areas.They talk about love but do not necessarily talk about marriage.They pay attention to material conditions rather than relationships,and pursue self-experience rather than family life.As a modern way of family formation,the logic of love and marriage realism lies in the relative separation of love and marriage,and the material as the prerequisite and guarantee of love and marriage.Among them,affection is the prerequisite of marriage,marriage is the result of love,and material conditions are the bridge between“love”and“marriage”.This kind of realism makes the process of marriage and love of rural youths broken down into three relatively independent stages:love,marriage and post-marriage.Under the balance of emotional and material interests,three game rules appear:“play”,“fit”,“improper”.This has led to the entertainment of love,the continued heating up of the local marriage and love market,and the increased instability of the family.The materialistic view of marriage,love and family of rural youth deserves continuous attention and deep reflection.

关 键 词：婚恋现实主义 天价彩礼 婚恋逻辑 婚姻家庭神圣性 

分 类 号：D669.1[政治法律—政治学]